The Chemistry Of Love

The Chemistry Of Love

Aradhana Kaul Kathju

February 14, 2023

Fact Checked by: Aradhana Kaul Kathju

3 mins read

                  Love is in the air … in gift shops and in coffee shops too. But what about the love within?
People, to put it simply, share their intimate secrets only with those they trust. This is an obvious fact no doubt, but how can get you into one of these inner circles of other people? Is it gifts? Is it praise? Or is it something deeper and more meaningful like respect and consideration? You can enjoy a little attention every now and then and on special days of celebration of love like valentine’s. But that is not likely to hold strong enough to keep a relationship going for long. People will cherish a relationship which makes them feel wanted, and welcomed, allow them to be effectuate, contributing, and nurtured. Along with these emotions, one must include feelings of appreciation, safety, being integral, and not forgetting significant. These are basic needs of every individual irrespective of age, socio-economic status, education, or exposure. Unless you are convinced that these emotions can be justified and satisfied with a mere bunch of flowers, a box of chocolates or I believe a teddy bear during just one of a 52-week cycle, Valentine’s Day should come more than once a year.


                  Emotions as strong as these need time to build up and be nurtured for good health. We need to connect with the intended partner and share their interests, ideologies, and perspectives. It is only then that you can be on the same page, and your ideation matches. It is only then that you can build something together. Something that has an essence, structure, stability, and reliability. Something that invokes the same emotions in you both.

Meaningful relationships


                   Meaningful relationships are fulfilling and satisfying only when they exist between individuals who are aware and involved from their very core beliefs. This means that to enjoy this quality of a relationship you need to trust each other, respect each other and practice the act of gratitude. This allows you to couple with a like-minded person and create that inner circle you require to survive and thrive.
Now, while you are working on the emotional aspect of relationships, guiding and evolving your thinking patterns, your brain is heavily working on something too. When you are with your loved one, you may tend to feel light-footed (feel like dancing), smiling all the time (as if on a higher plane), or even pain-free (satiated with life in general). These are signs that your brain is releasing dopamine, putting you in a consistent state of euphoria. You tend to give more into the relationship without many expectations, act selflessly, and are pretty happy about it. This is the work of oxytocin, the love hormone. This means that when you experience love, your brain chemistry changes too, luckily for the better.
Having said that, what’s it going to be this season, chocolates, teddy bears, roses, hearts, or the safe space and comfort of being protected and carefree?

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