Anger is one of the many emotions we experience as human beings. Although it is mostly seen as a negative emotion, there is much to learn from anger. Being angry tells us what has upset, disappointed, or hurt us. It is a sign that something is not alright in our life.
“To be angry is to let other’s mistakes punish you.”–Gautama Buddha
Hence, we need to recognize the source of our anger and manage it effectively.
Step 1: Identify Triggers
The first step to dealing with anger is to understand the source from where it comes. There may be different reasons why you may get angry. The reasons can be broadly categorized as internal and external. You may be angry because of your personal feelings or due to external factors.
Another key aspect to keep in mind is that anger has physiological warning signs. You should keep your mind open to recognize and acknowledge these warning signs. Increased heart rate and tense muscles are two of the most common warning signs. Once you realize that you are getting angry, explore the reason for your anger. Ask yourself- Will your anger help or hurt you?
Step 2: Choose a Technique
Many techniques will help regulate your anger. It can range from counting up to 10 or actively improving your skills. Research studies have identified the three key strategies to deal with anger. They are-relaxation, cognitive behavior modification, and skill training. Here we have listed some of the evidence-based techniques that help you manage your anger.
- Reframing your thoughts
- Physical activity
- Improving your communication
Step 3: Practice
You can choose any anger management technique that works for you. It can be helpful at the moment or develop your ability to deal with anger in the long term. Irrespective of the technique you choose, it is important that you practice it.
When you are trying to change something in your behavior, there are some phases you may go through.
- First, you have to prepare yourself for the change, which you have done by reading this article.
- Secondly, you have to actively and consciously choose to change. You can do this by regulating your anger the next time you are triggered.
- Thirdly, you need to accept and adjust to the change. It indicates that you need to recognize the shift in how you express your anger. You will also have to make relevant adjustments in your life. It occurs when you actively practice and apply the technique you have chosen.
- Finally, you have to maintain the change. It is also possible with regular practice and conscious effort to manage your anger.
The blog was written with the expert guidance and feedback of Dr. Vasanth Kattalai Kailasam, Diplomat of the American Board of Psychiatry and Neurology.
He is one of the Founders and the CMO at CareMe Health.
Edited & Coordinated by Arathi Nair, Writer – CareMe
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